Lisa, 48, office manager from Hornchurch shares her experience.
I had a very similar experience to Meg’s in that four years ago I started having very strange symptoms that I put down to the menopause…
…but just got shooed out of my doctor’s surgery as a bit of a hypochondriac. It wasn’t hot flushes or anything I would have associated with the menopause but as they followed a cycle thought it could not be anything else. I was put on a low dose birth control eventually as a ‘trial’ which helped with the headaches and I just learned to live with the other strange feelings.
I stopped arranging things and I hid from friends who I didn’t want to think I had ‘lost the plot’!
Fast forward four years and completely out of the blue and following missing a few periods, back in October I developed the most horrific anxiety. This was made totally worse by the palpitations I had a constant uneasy feeling in my gut! I went from someone who, in the week, was a full time working single mum and, on weekends, someone who lived life to the fullest going to concerts and drinking cocktails, to a total wreck who found it difficult to leave the house. I stopped watching TV as I could not concentrate. I stopped arranging things and I hid from friends who I didn’t want to think I had ‘lost the plot’!
I was placed on a counselling list but refused the anti-depressants and beta blockers as I was not depressed!
I started to research and realised that this could only be the menopause. I went to my doctor who again refused to acknowledge the menopause and offered beta blockers then anti-depressants. I was placed on a counselling list but refused the anti-depressants and beta blockers as I was not depressed! I had everything to not be depressed about I had just stopped being able to enjoy life because of these awful symptoms.
I tried to get help through my health insurance and was told if it’s the menopause you aren’t covered! I was willing to remortgage by this stage. I cried constantly and felt like I had nothing to live for if I was to live this life forever.
Out of desperation I contacted Louise Newson asking for her opinion and bless her she took time out of her weekend to email me and say, ‘go and ask for HRT you certainly sound menopausal.’
I actually sobbed at her desk like a child. Finally, someone was listening!
When I went back to my surgery I was lucky enough to see a young lady doctor who had just been on a ‘menopause course’. I demanded to see a gynae, but she said, ‘Let me help you’. I actually sobbed at her desk like a child. Finally, someone was listening!
This doctor put me on an HRT patch which within three weeks had made me feel me again. I still get little niggles like a bit of nausea or headache but that gets less every week. I am at the gym most days and booking weekends out with the girls again. People are commenting on my skin and hair and I feel like someone has plugged me back into the mains. It’s not a little improvement I actually feel better than I have done for years!!! My friends are all running to the docs to ask for patches!