Sex education doesn’t end at school. Even if you’ve had many years of sexual experiences, it doesn’t mean that you know everything, especially when it comes to taboo topics such as masturbation.
Luckily, female masturbation is a subject that’s now been discussed much more openly than ever before. According to a survey conducted by Victoria Milan, most women masturbate. Women between the ages of 18 and 24 masturbate the most (80%), compared to 53% of women above 65 years old.
However, women aged between 46- and 55-years old rank firs when it comes to the frequencyt of self-pleasure. Almost half of them masturbate every day to enjoy and give themselves an orgasm compared to only 13% of the younger women who masturbate much less often.
80% of the youngest women who took this survey (18–24 years old) masturbate, but only 13% of them do it every day. Quite far from the oldest participants!
Another study, published by Indiana University, confirms that middle-aged people still masturbate regularly – 63% of men and 47% of women. There is data that indicates that a significant number of those 80 and older continue to pleasure themselves.
5 things you need to know about masturbation and menopause
1. Self-pleasure is great for your physical health
Masturbation increases blood flow, which helps maintain all the tissues in the intimate areas of the body. If you don’t have a partner or don’t have sex with them frequently, it’s even more important for your body to have reasons to use your vagina. Vaginal atrophy is thinning, drying and inflammation of the vaginal walls that may occur when your body has less oestrogen.
What you can do to prevent this is to use a small vibrator, apply lubricant and place it in your vagina on a low setting for about 10 minutes. This is a great moment to do some Kegel exercises, i.e., contract your pelvic floor muscles.
2. Masturbation is excellent for mental health
In addition to feeling good and keeping you healthy, masturbation can help relieve stress, make you feel sexy. It helps you get to know which areas of your body are capable of releasing the biggest amount of pleasure, and that can improve your overall sex life and give you confidence.
Many women share that they find it easier to fall asleep after a good session with their favourite toy, to cope with anger, frustration and mood swings. It’s much cheaper and pleasurable than therapy, so what’s there to lose?
3. You might be less sensitive than before
Menopause affects sensitivity from both a hormonal and a mental point of view. Decreased hormonal levels, including testosterone, leads to decreased sensation in the clitoris. That means you need extra lubrication and additional time warming up to get into the mood.
There are some benefits that come with menopause such as no more periods or worries that you might get pregnant. That can calm you down and make you feel more relaxed, therefore more easily aroused. On the flip side, some women worry that their femininity has decreased and they feel less desirable and sexy. If you have adopted this attitude, your libido would suffer. So work on that – the way you think about yourself and how you talk to yourself. Feeling goof in your own skin can play a huge role in your arousal and your ability to feel pleasure.
4. Sex should not be painful
Oestrogen levels decrease significantly during menopause which means that the natural fluids that are released during sex or arousal are much less than before which leads to vaginal dryness even during sex. In addition, the tissues become thinner – you may experience burning or pain. Using vaginal moisturisers and lubricants is, therefore, essential. This creates a slippery layer that covers the inside of the vagina and will make masturbation feel better as you get older.
5. You might enjoy masturbation…too much!
When women get older, some of them find it more comfortable to satisfy themselves because they feel more comfortable with their bodies compared to when they were younger. They find that they have more time alone, as they are less likely to look after children who could be a real distraction. If you find that you have more time and more desire to masturbate compared to when you’re younger, this is quite normal. Enjoy it! Discover parts of your body that you weren’t familiar with before and give yourself all the pleasure you deserve,
What are the best ways to masturbate?
Sex toy manufacturer TENGA surveyed 13,000 people aged 18-74 in 18 countries for its 2018 Global Self-Pleasure Study. The study revealed some interesting findings about women’s “masturbation routines”. Here is what they like the most:
- Using your imagination
54% of women enjoy immersing themselves in a sexual fantasy to get themselves in the mood. The most common fantasies according to another study include having sex with multiple people and sex with a famous person.
35% of women admit to viewing adult content as part of their masturbation routine. 15% read erotic stories as well.
- Thinking about a past experience
Men and women are similarly likely to think about a past sexual experience when they masturbate (26% and 24% respectively).
- Sex toys
28% of women use vibrators or dildos, many others use their fingers or the showerhead.
Masturbation and menopause: final thoughts
We need to enjoy life. Masturbation is very healthy, so embrace it fully enjoying the pleasure of rediscovering your body. Once you become more familiar with your body, you’ll become more confident asserting yourself sexually when you’re with a partner. Remember to clean your toys after use, apply lubrication and embrace your fantasies. You deserve all the pleasure in the world!.