Maintaining Relationships

Menopause onset

Menopause starts when your oestrogen levels decrease until the moment your ovaries stop producing eggs and your period stops. You are considered menopausal once you have not had a period for 12 months consecutively. There are 34 symptoms associated with menopause which you can read more about here. Although the menopause is affecting us personally, it might also be affecting our relationships.

Menopause and relationships

As if maintaining relationships isn’t challenging enough, menopause can make it so much harder. If you are in a stable relationship, with a husband or wife, it can be challenging for them to follow you during menopausal changes. Suffering from mood swings, panic attacks, low libido, are not really helpful when you have a partner. It will be hard for them to understand what is happening to you, and it could be even harder for you to explain to them what’s going on. This can be a huge test on communication.

If you are not in a stable relationship, certain symptoms such as anxiety might make it more difficult to get to know someone. Usually weight gain, feeling uncomfortable with your body, lack of sleep and other menopausal symptoms will not help meeting someone or deciding to go for a date.


Sex related menopausal changes

We have to mention sex as loss of libido can be detrimental to a relationship. Your libido will decrease due to hormonal fluctuation. Then, if finally, you want to have sex despite the bloating, mood swing and everything else, you might find yourself experiencing intimate problems. Yes. More and more joy. This because oestrogen loss can cause vaginal dryness making sexual intercourse rather painful. What can you do? First of all, try to use intimate products suitable for your vagina. For example, Blossom balm and Blossom lave will respect your vaginal pH and moisturise the vagina. By improving your vaginal health it will be easier to have sexual intercourse. 


How to improve your libido

You can work with your partner on ways to improve your libido. First of all, play. Have fun, use dildos, toys, and find new way to connect with him/her. Moreover, you can use lubricants to fight against vaginal dryness. You can try Motion Lotion which is a natural lubricant coming in two version, oil based and water based. Just remember if you are not yet fully menopausal, you might still get pregnant and oil based lubricants are not suitable to be used with condoms.

Talk to your partner and explain what you are going through. They will understand. Using lubricants can spice up your sex life.


Tackling emotional bursts

Another aspect that may create some problem with your loved ones is emotional bursts. Those are not easy to deal with or predict. In fact, your partner might be frightened and also confused about your mood swings and emotional changes. The best thing you can do to manage this aspect is for sure to talk about it. I know the last thing you feel like doing is talking, but verbalising your emotions and describing them will give your partner and family an idea of what you are going through and this will help them and you. Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT) will improve your mood swing by stabilising your hormones.


Body changes and relationship

You body will change once you enter menopause. You could gain weight, and your fat distribution will change and will be more around your waist. This might affect your self-confidence. One thing you can do for that is to follow a healthy diet which will lower the chances of gaining weight. Exercise will not only boost your mood, but also will have positive reflection on your body shape.

Remember, you are not only doing this for your partner and other relationships. Leading a healthy lifestyle with diet and exercise can help fight menopause related diseases such as osteoporosis.